Just Keep Swimming……

Read this First…

When I read this post (link up there), of donkeys years ago, last year to be exact I shivered, perhaps you did too.

The reason I shivered is because something like this happened to me too…..

I was the typical “troubled teen” in school, always looking for a reason to be different, as if I didn’t have enough reasons.

Home life was rubbish and my Dad was ill, he has been a sufferer of manic depression since 23 (before I arrived). I use the word suffer deliberately as he does suffer, and he makes sure everyone around him does too.

Things came to a head for me when I was 16. I could no longer take the weight of a grown manic man’s problems on my teenage shoulders. I had enough of my own, my sexuality, my general difference, my lack of confidence, my lack of trust, my list was, it seemed, endless.

I thought about death and I planned for it, and I executed it, would have succeeded too…. except someone found me (I’m sure I wanted to be found really)

My “John” is that 16 yr old,

In the days and months after, I mourned her.

She died without my ever getting to talk to her, and from that waste of life I got the strength to stand up for myself.

To keep swimming…….

Its not always easy to keep my head above water, but every hour I manage it I am glad.

This life affords me such wonderful experiences (and some pretty shit ones too) but that empty joyless fearfull parallel life that could have been has given me reason to be very grateful for her passing.

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4 Responses to Just Keep Swimming……

  1. Marie Boran says:

    Wow, I think bloggers are drawn towards each other. A little more introspective with a tendency towards melancholy than the average person maybe. Your post is stunningly personal and thanks for sharing. I’m glad you carry that 16 year old with you to make sure ‘she’ didn’t die for nothing and that you had a rebirth of sorts.

  2. Darragh says:

    That’s stunning. I wish I had something more constructive to say but as Marie above says, thanks for sharing. I’ll be thinking about that today (in a good way).

  3. Elf in Amsterdam says:

    @marieboran i think so too, its a pity i didn’t bite the bullet and begin blogging in Dublin or I’d be able to meet up with you guys. But there’s a reason for everything

    @darragh thanks 😀 I’m glad that it didn’t come across as freaky, was beginning to be afraid of that. It needed out of my head anyway. THanks for reading.

  4. K8 the Gr8 says:

    Excellent epiphany story.

    Don’t worry about being freaky – I know a lot of us have felt like that, though only a precious few have the guts to write it down. It’s a really healthy outlook you got dere 🙂

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